The festive season often comes with a whirlwind of work and social expectations. For many adults, these commitments extend far beyond personal or home environments. If these events feel overwhelming or simply not for you, skipping them altogether might be the best way to honor your neurodiverse needs and live your life authentically.
However, if you feel a desire or obligation to attend but don’t want to commit to the full array of noisy, alcohol-infused events, there are ways to strike a balance. This balance can allow you to make meaningful social connections without depleting your physical and emotional energy.
Finding Balance Through Planning
One key strategy is creating a festive calendar that blends work, social, and family commitments. Planning ahead can help you structure a season that feels fulfilling rather than overwhelming.
7 Tips for Navigating Festive Work and Social Events
- Prepare, Prepare, Prepare
As the saying goes, “Poor prior planning leads to poor performance.” Planning ahead can make a huge difference. Purchase gifts early, outline your social calendar, and carefully choose the events that are most important to you. - Don’t Overload Your Plate
The end-of-year rush can be intense, but remember: you don’t have to attend every event. Energy management is crucial. Be selective and allow yourself plenty of downtime between commitments to rest and recharge. - Maintain Routine (When Possible)
While the festive season brings inevitable changes, keeping some routines intact can provide stability. Whether it’s regular therapy activities, consistent meal times, or other habits, continuity helps you enjoy the holidays with less stress. - Have a Backup Plan
Even with the best preparation, things can go awry. Sensory overload or unexpected changes can happen. Create a quick exit strategy and don’t hesitate to use it if you need to prioritize your well-being. - Respect Your Boundaries
Boundaries are crucial, especially during high-stress periods. Don’t feel obligated to attend events, engage in conversations, or participate in activities that make you uncomfortable. Saying “no” is a valid option. - Celebrate Your Way
The holidays should be about enjoying yourself, your way. Whether it’s avoiding flashing lights, listening to your favorite songs on repeat, or keeping things low-key, tailor your celebrations to what makes you happiest. - Prioritize Time for Yourself
Identify activities that help you stay calm and grounded, such as taking a walk, reading, or indulging in a favorite hobby. Let others know you need occasional time alone to recharge. Slot these moments of self-care around festive commitments to maintain your emotional and physical energy.
The Key to a Joyful Festive Season
The holidays are an opportunity to enjoy time with friends, family, and colleagues, but they don’t have to come at the cost of your well-being. By planning ahead, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care, you can craft a festive season that’s enjoyable and empowering for you.